Posted on Feburary 11, 2020
Entrepreneurship is the process of ideation, planning, implementation, and keeping the course alive and growing forever, in spite of risks and distractions on the way. So, no wonder if an emergency meeting falls across the way, or new launch delayed. All this is as plain as a pikestaff. But, sometimes your planning might fail or gets diverted because of avoidable and unnecessary distractions which could be:
Leveraging your thoughts on what others believe: Being an entrepreneur means exposure to many people trying to suggest to you about their self-limiting beliefs. No doubt, it’s good to take feedback provided; it is coming from the right people. Your creativity gets compromised when you listen or participate in such distractive conversations. Understanding the fact that everyone has their unique journey and experiences can help many entrepreneurs cope up with these distractions.
Obsession about the future: When it comes to worrying about the future, be more actionable then being an over-thinker. Because we worry as something is not right but just worrying about weary wishes is not the solution. So, take action to change the reality if you think that’s required. Dig deep to get the thinks on the right track in the present rather than niggling about the future happenings.
Shining object syndrome: It is the technical term for the disease of distraction, which affects everyone who gets distracted with the new interests. It could be a new tool for marketing or technology or anything we try to do single-handed. Although, it's not wrong to learn new things; however, this keeps you distracted most of the time from your core vision. Being an entrepreneur, you always want to be updated; still, it's the cut-throat competition out there in the market, so you cannot afford to be distracted from your goals and vision. Hence, it's better to identify at the initial stage to avoid any collisions of your short-term and long-term goals
Being a nomophobia: Nomophobia refers to “No mobile phobia” is the term coined for people who feel anxiety, perspiration, fear, and in worst conditions, depression while staying away from their cell phones. If this resonates with you, then this could be extremely challenging to focus on your goals as an entrepreneur. The social media apps and other instantly used apps have unnecessary notification every hour. Here is a detailed study on how nomophobia worsens the conditions of mankind.
Lack of strategy: It is challenging to decide on the upcoming priorities since all of the tasks look quite significant. The problem is, this leads you to work 24X7 without any break. As an entrepreneur, if you fail to plan a day or stick to the calendar, you are apparently planning to fail in your business. By the same token, entrepreneurs forget to do the cost-benefit analysis of the activity. For instance, calling a potential client is more important than following up with the marketing intern about the analytics report. Further, the time taken to converse with the future client could be extended. While it is not feasible to spend three hours with the HR team when the meeting was blocked for an hour or so.
There could be other reasons that are limiting your capabilities to the path of your journey of success. Identifying the distractions and being mindful has a far-reaching impact on your mindset. But the question is how to be mindful? It is always advisable to take expert advice when you are unable to identify the shackles. A mentor can tell you how, instead of foreboding, how these distractions can be handled and well-addressed.
Posted on Feburary 7, 2020
Be grateful for what you have: In the shadow of negativity and pain, we almost neglect good things happening in the surroundings. Our focus is on what we don’t have. Shift your focus by allowing yourself a few moments of silence and peace. Calm down and list down three things you should be grateful for. Think about your unique possessions. It is not necessarily any worldly thing, instead, it could be a skillset or your well-being.
Affirmations are the key: There is a direct connection between all the five senses in our body. So, when you say something aloud, your mind perceives it. And if you do that recurrently, your mind holds that thought subconsciously. Therefore, start and end your day with a positive affirmation. It will not only add value to your life but also help you become a great leader.
Write down your thoughts: When you journal, you cleanse your internal, and positivity becomes eternal. Create a secret journal and write down how you feel about an event or an incident. Make sure no one else reads it. Every moment should be put down on paper and, the importance of writing is realized in the long-term. On the one hand, it allows you to stick to your future goals; on the other hand, it helps you remember your life experiences and learnings. Moreover, there is one more benefit of creating a journal, which is to let go and forgive your unpleasant past occurrence and confront reality.
Count on your good deeds: According to mentalhealth.org.uk, studies show that helping others is beneficial for our well-being. When you are dealing with your problems, and you feel helpless, try to shift your focus on helping others in need. This is one of the most effective magical ways of diverting your negative feeling into positive. Become a giver and do something for the others who are in need without expectations. The joy of giving is the best way to find the reason for living.
Stop being judgmental about yourself: When we infer our actions even before achieving the actual outcome, our thoughts get gloomy. Hence, for any task initiation or assignment, do not form an opinion at the beginning. Instead, stay neutral and observe the real-time steps that are carried out to accomplish a task. Hence, whenever your mind gets into the judgmental mode, stop there and remind yourself that you are here to observe not to conclude. For instance, while taking up a project, you find a client not very friendly and form an opinion in your mind that whatsoever you do, the client will not be satisfied. It will limit your capabilities to perform 100% on the project as well as transmits wrong signals to your brain of whatever is done; it will be unsuccessful. So, to stay positive and give your 100% performance, stop being judgemental, and let the things flow as they are. Stay positive!
Focus on immediate actions: We usually get into the trauma of negative thinking either when we focus on the past where we experienced any fear or hold grudges, or we are worried about our future, i.e., what will happen in certain unexpected conditions? We lose our senses in thinking about the fear that we forget about our existing assets and the power of taking action in the present. So, rather than getting into self-dialogue wiring from your past events, rewire your focus on the present opportunities.
Positive thinking is about focusing on what you own and the action you can take in the present to stay happy. Remember that the worst day of your life had 24 hours, and the best day is and will also be 24 hours long. So, tag your days in such a way that when you look back at your life events five years down the line, you see more action-oriented and positive days.
Posted on Feburary 4, 2020
There is a saying, "Your inner world is the reflection of your outer world.” If you think you are in abundance, then you are in abundance and vice versa. In one of our previous blog posts, we discussed how a negative inner dialogue can adversely impact your day. In this blog, we will talk about positive self-talk, which is only possible if you have a positive mindset:
Pessimist to optimist: Positive thinking is like a passage, where we see the greener side of the field. It is the transition of thoughts from "I don't have" to "I have." In short, it's the way where you can turn from being a pessimist to an optimist. Pessimist struggles with the negative inner dialogue, which is toxic and unfavourable. Nevertheless, positive thinking metamorphoses the overall thoughts to optimistic thinking.
Reverting the limiting thoughts to endless opportunities: In our childhood, we are being told about the limiting factors and set boundaries for most of the things we do. It is actually either the perception of the person who taught us or the thoughts that society holds as per their experiences in life. Everyone is unique; hence, everyone has the right to explore their potential. Nonetheless, we are not doing so because our brain is trained to stay in limits. Positive thinking breaks the barriers that circumscribe. For better understanding, you can read the book Rich Dad Poor Dad, which illustrates well that how rich is richer and poor is poorer.
Bolster to anger management: Anger is the fundamental nature of humankind. Sometimes, it is good to be angry; however, that should not result in regrets and grudges against anyone. Being a positive thinker, one can curb the anger and its aftermath, moreover, they understand that if the rage retains for the extended time, it will ultimately lead to emotions of hate, regret, annoyance, fear, and frustration. Ergo, positive thinking can help you with anger management.
Helps you broadening the skillsets: When you have a positive mindset, you are open to the extreme horizons of the possibilities. Your mind welcomes new skills and acquires knowledge in various subjects effortlessly. Whether its skills in personal or professional life, you start to revive and accept. When you are eager to learn, it automatically reduces the feeling of self-doubt and adds to your life skills.
Adds to the intellectual power: According to Stanford researchers, positive thinking impacts the ability of the brain to solve any problems. As it was research on the group of students, it has been acclaimed that the brain area linked with memory and learning works more efficiently for the students retaining a positive attitude.
Buffer against unpleasant situation: We face ups and downs in life. Positive thinking can help you cope up with the displeasing situations at the micro as well as macro level. For instance, if there is any natural calamity or spreading out diseases, positive thinking can drive you to look for how you can contribute to society rather than focusing on what is going around. If you start thinking positive by focusing on the resolution, you can add value to the nation by making other's hopeful and upbeat their thoughts.
Promotes healthy living: Studies prove that there is a direct impact of positive inner dialogue on our physical health. According to the research, people with a positive attitude have a lower risk of cardiovascular diseases. The similar studies at the University of Colorado suggest that positive thinking promotes the immune system and hence, the body more resistant to infections and tumors.
Positive thinking helps us decipher the root cause of unpleasant thoughts and works on resolving the problem rather than focusing on the current dissatisfaction. To enhance positive emotions, start your day with positive self-talk.
Keep your face to the sunshine and you cannot see the shadow. -Helen Keller
Posted on January 31, 2020
Pregnancy is the process in which you encounter many physical changes in the body, both internally as well as externally. The unexpected fluctuation in weight is the major concern for women post-delivery.
Breast appearance: The growing and shrinking of the breast may cause breast sagging. The dormant fat tissue gets replaced by functional tissue so that a mother can breastfeed the baby. However, this leads to a bigger and heavier breast. This is a temporary change, as when the mother stops breastfeeding, it rewires to the original shape. Sometimes it leads to breast sagging for an extended period. This is because of the stretched out ligaments and the accumulation of fatty tissues. Although, the studies suggest that breastfeeding lowers down the risk of breast cancer.
Hairfall after delivery: The hair density fluctuates based on the hormonal changes taking place in your body while and after pregnancy. For the first six months of your pregnancy, you will notice the density and quality of hair are flourishing. However, after baby birth, there could be hair loss. This is the usual symptom and temporary phase after the delivery. It is recommended to go for natural treatments such as You simply need to consult an expert who can help you with the hair treatment.
Stretchmarks: You may miss wearing low waist jeans for a while after delivery, as you may stretch marks on your abdomen. This happens due to the increase or decrease in body size. They are normal marks that are visible whenever there are physical changes in the body. It takes time to heal the same completely, yet there are many stretch marks, removal medicines, and applications to lighten the marks.
Feeling lethargic: During labor, you lose a lot of blood as well as the process impacts the overall body. You might feel tired as well as drowsy most of the time. This is a normal state for at least six weeks after giving birth to the newborn. Another reason for feeling tired is because you don’t get proper rest since there is no timetable. Every activity like feeding the baby, the time when the baby sleeps, etc. is uncertain. So, unless you feel extremely worn out, assume it to be normal. Take a short nap in between to feel better.
Impact on internal organs: While pregnancy and after birth, several activities take place in the uterus. It expands, contracts, and it has to retain back the menstrual cycle. The shrinking of the uterus after childbirth as it lowers itself behind the pubic bone, which reduces the tummy size. Further, once you stop breastfeeding, the menstrual cycle gets back to normal. So, if there are some swollen, bruised, and sore crotch(in case of vaginal delivery) for a while, assume it to be the part of the whole process.
Skin and facial problems: You might observe dry patches, acne, and pigmentation or under eye dark circle on the skin. Sometimes the acne is painful and itchy. This is because of hormonal changes that take place within the body. It will get back to normal as the hormones get back to bog-standard.
The overall body is impacted after childbirth since the hormonal changes have a major role in all the steps of the process. That’s why it is highly recommended to have a balanced diet and practice exercises like prenatal yoga while you are pregnant.
Posted on January 29, 2020
"Leadership is not a title; it's a behaviour, live it." - Robin Sharma
It's not about being a leader, rather, it's about being a great leader by your habits, behaviour, and the value you share with society. There are many qualities of a great leader, which we are aware of, such as leaders are passionate, honest, creative, committed, problem solver, and so on. However, here are few ineluctable leadership qualities that prosper with time within great leaders:
Be precise with your vision: Clarity is a must, as the rate of being successful automatically decreases if there is self-doubt. Being a leader comes with an enormous amount of responsibilities where you have to make sure you stick to your vision. Since social media is so distracting, it can easily wipe off your focus, however, leaders don’t do it. Everyone looks at you as a pathfinder, and if you are not clear about what you want to achieve and have a vision, the team will never consider you as a leader.
Unwind the habit of listening and observing: It is imperative to see the behaviours and reactions of others around you in various situations. A leader has to empathize with people and understand things from their perspective. Leaders never try to dominate or impose their decisions on others. Instead, they first access the impact and enumerate the consequences of everyone surrounding them.
Leaders are inspired within: As we know that, "Our outer world is the reflection of our inner world." Similarly, to be a leader, one has to be motivated and fired up within before they can be an inspiration for others. The leaders go through a positive inner dialogue, which allows them to connect with people around them. They synchronize their thoughts with others to encourage them towards the overall growth and development.
Start giving credit to others: Everyone wants to get recognized, and when you credit someone, they feel great and a sense of belonging. Leaders always share the credit for everything they do. They always say that it's teamwork and a joint effort.
Leaders never give up: Leaders understand that it's all about constant effort and never looking back. What they know is, if they don't do it, no one else will do it in the team. This is the quality of being a role model for everyone who surrounds the leader. Whether it's Albert Einstein or Steve Jobs, they are successful because they choose not to fail. Instead, they learned with every failure, followed their passion, and every next try was better than the previous.
Stick to the commitments: Well said by Tony Robbins, "There's always a way - if you are committed.” Leaders know that before they make any commitments to anyone in their surroundings, they have to be committed within. Their principles and beliefs should be strong enough to fulfill those commitments. No matter how eagerly they commit to the outer world unless leaders are dedicated to fulfill those commitments, everything is in vain. After all, you cannot conquer what you are NOT committed to.
Convert risks into opportunities: We all face the situation of dilemma in various situations of life. When we encounter such circumstances, there are only two possibilities: One is finding a WAY and the other EXCUSES. If you have the zeal to convert the challenge into an opportunity, you will find a way; otherwise, there are ample excuses to say. So, the leaders will find a way, and even if they fail, they will try harder next time to accomplish a task to reciprocate the situation. Remember, the successful conversion of risk into opportunity will make you happy and satisfied. At the same time, the unsuccessful efforts or failure to do so will be learning that will make you wiser.
There are enormous qualities leaders have, which can be achieved by following the passion and inlaying adequate efforts to make it a habit forever. Although, there are two types of leaders in this world: leader by name and leaders by attitude and habits. We encourage you to be the second type of leader because then you will lead your life like a masterpiece.
Posted on January 27, 2020
No matter how hard you try, you can’t avoid staring at childish activities your babies do — cuddling with tiny hands, playing around the bush, trying to stand by own, and so on. At the same time, we undergo some emotional challenges that pilot pain sometimes.
Fear of vulnerable risks: Many of us, as a mother from the time we conceive, we are prone to the habit of worrying about everything associated with our children. Even if we take an adequate amount of balanced diet, sound sleep as well as exercise, still we constantly ween the thought of inadequacy. The thought of whether the child’s growth is as right as rain might frighten you. This is because of the release of a hormone called relaxin which not only impacts the body physically but also triggers stress and anxiety. The release of relaxin is conventional, you just need to relax and be patient.
Worrying about petty concerns: The question of whether I know my child well or not is the most dominant thought. For instance, why is my baby crying, is it the tooth pain or stomach pain? Does she/he enjoys being around other people? When will my baby start to crawl? and many more. Everything gets fixed with time; however, we are more curious and unreasonably worried about everything in connection with our children, especially if it’s a first baby.
Comparing with other children: When it comes to kids, we wish to keep everything at the top of the line. Whether it’s the activities they do while growing up as a toddler or the school or any birthday party. We compare our kids with everyone around them, and that builds the feeling of competition among kids too. This is another emotional challenge that mothers are overwhelmed with.
Fear of inkling inner emotions: The child’s birth and upbringing are mingled up with jumbled emotions. In turn, the negative emotions lead to mood swings, which is termed as baby blues. It is a matter of concern as inner self-talk may lead to emotional breakdown for an extended period of time, leading to postpartum depression. The timely expert consultation can proffer the way out of such an emotional breakdown.
Fear of guidance: Parents want to fulfill each and every need of their child, such as feeding them when they are hungry, share tales with them when they are sleepy and play with them as and when needed. As a mother, we ought to make everything as convenient as possible. However, one day or the other, everyone lives their own life. The insecurity of upbringing your child in such a way that, they see everything through is an emotional challenge for the mother. Every mother wants to make sure that her children are capable of judging the situation and making the right decisions.
Emotional challenges are an integral part of motherhood, but, do you know they directly impact how your baby feels. Whether during pregnancy, when the baby is the part of your body or after delivery, the emotional connection never fails. Every time you are happy, it resonates with their physical and mental development. While you are stressed or sad, your baby gets the vibrations of your aura, and it is inculcated in their upbringing. To know more about the emotional challenges and how to square up the emotions, take expert advice who have been through the process and coach you in your emotional journey of motherhood.
Posted on January 24, 2020
The spectrum of challenges for working mothers is not limited to one. Balancing personal and professional life requires a lot of courage and time management skills. There are multiple ways of how they confront various situations, especially if they are career-oriented, the difficulty multiplies.
Prepare yourself in advance: Life after baby birth is similar to an adventure. If you prepare yourself in advance, you will enjoy the moments. Pre-plan your career choices keeping in the account of all the situations that might arise.
Take it as a learning and not difficulty: When you are out of your comfort zone, either you break it, or you make it. So, it's upon you if you want to learn from those experiences or you want to creep about the circumstances. In this period, you get to know yourself better and polish your skillsets for a better future.
Be comfortable in saying NO: There are many opportunities to make a choice in our personal and professional life. Try to be straight forward by not over committing instead limit your work or delegate tasks wherever it is feasible to do so. There is no harm in saying NO for the time being and moving on. Moreover, don't be afraid of losing any project at work as this unreasonably consumes a lot of time and energy.
Keep yourself updated: While you are away from work or temporarily not working or on maternity leaves, brush up your skills, and read about your profession or any field you are in. Most of the time, we fail when our knowledge or expertise is outdated. Hence, even if you are away from work, keep reading.
Keep a backup plan: When you are traveling in two boats at a time, the risk of getting slipped off accelerates. Hence, always keep a backup plan for your professional life. Keep track of all the job offers you had in the past, or maybe if you apply for the position elsewhere, you may get a chance to showcase your skills.
Set up your start-up: It's always a good idea to start a business on your own. Today, it's an open market online, thanks to the internet. You can connect globally anywhere in the world. So, find out what you are good at, and you can polish your skills to monetize the same.
Here is the story of Reem Kharbat, the lady behind "Online Entrepreneur Accelerator!", who started a podcast despite hardships and challenges and has built a 6-figure business in four years:
"Have you ever looked at your life and thought, "Wow, I've made it!" I did! Four years ago, I was a successful CFO in a multinational company, and I thought that I had it all… until my boss "asked" me to quit the day I gave birth! I was angry, frustrated, and scared! How could I make a living and watch my baby grow without worrying that somebody else was in control of our destiny! That's when I decided I would never go back to employment or to building someone else's dream. So, I began the journey of learning, of observing trendsetters and successes, and implementing. Through hard work and determination to build the life I wanted for my child, I launched several multi-6-figure businesses in just four short years.
Now she helps people growing business faster by sharing the strategies and tricks that skyrocketed their success in life and business.
Be creative with what you do: This is the time to be creative in time management and everything you do. You have to plan your days in such a way that you work at 4X productivity. Take it as a chance to be more creative and efficient. Take time to rejuvenate yourself and prepare mentally.
The undue pressure for working moms could be balanced well if handled with patience and planning, hence rather than burning out yourself, take a load off one's feet and enjoy the phase of being a mother.
Posted on January 13, 2020
Practising mindfulness doesn’t require extra effort or time. It should be part of your life, and that’s how it is useful. The minute you realize you should be mindful, start your journey then and there. You are reading this article because you want to be mindful, which will increase your focus and efficiency at work and improve your current relationships — the four-week effective plan will help you be mindful in every situation:
Understand your thoughts and observe them throughout!
Week 1: The realization week
Identify the high-low moments of the day: Not every hour of the day, you feel the same energy. There are periods when you feel too low and unhappy and the other times satisfied and in abundance. It could be due to some emotional triggers or external factors or any other reasons. The capacity of being mindful is higher when you are in alignment with your positive energies. For instance, start the practice of being mindful at the start of the day since the first hour of the day is very productive. While you identify your highs and lows, reflect on your strengths and weaknesses.
Remind yourself: Our brain is wired in such a way that it drifts away from the main subject every time we try to concentrate hard. So, take it easy. Rather than forcing yourself for being mindful for a longer duration. Set the alarm twice a day to remind you about observing your thoughts and perceiving thinking patterns.
Week 2: The starter week
Take out five minutes in the morning: As discussed above, the morning hours are the best time to practise mindfulness. In week two, start concentrating on your breath for 5 minutes in the morning. Do not manipulate your breath; observe the normal breathing process. Just make sure your mind is filled with fresh thoughts and recharged.
Gift yourself two minutes mindfulness practice every four hours: In the beginning, it might not be easy to practice mindfulness. So fix a time say, two minutes every four hours where you notice your breath moving in and out of your nostrils.
Week 3: The implementation week
Practise mindfulness every hour: If you have followed the above two steps religiously, then it will be easy for you to remind yourself every hour for 2 to 3 minutes to think consciously.
Convert negative into neutral: This is the advanced level of mindfulness. Positive thinking might not work when you have heavy negative emotions. But what you can do is neutralize your thoughts. If you had an unpleasant discussion followed by the negative inner dialogue, divert yourself with soothing music or think about neutralizing your thoughts. You can also think about happy moments of your life. Positive self-dialogue is the sign of mindfulness however, do not drag your brain directly from negative to positive. Leverage the power of being neutral temporarily.
Week 4: The conscious week
Being a conscious thinker: Mindfulness, while performing day to day tasks, is actually called conscious thinking. When you eat, drink, work, or spend time with your family, colleagues or friends, be mindful. The practise of being mindful requires a lot of patience and observance power. However, if you follow the above process, it will be easy for you to implement mindfulness in every aspect of your life.
Few things that will contribute to being mindful:
Improving your body posture : Sit straight while practicing mindfulness. Do not tighten your body; just relax.
Surround yourself with mindful people: There are insightful people like you who are mindful or trying to be mindful, get in touch with them, and share your experiences.
Get a coach: For some people, it takes a week; however, for some, it might take a more prolonged period. It is advisable to have a mentor or a mindfulness coach who can help you in your journey of being mindful.
Posted on January 10, 2020
What is mindfulness?
Mindfulness is the combination of mind and fullness, which means being aware of the activities of your mind. There are multitudinous things going on in our external environment where we tend to forget our real being. The brain processes lots of unnecessary thoughts that we are unaware of or neglect them. Therefore, by practicing mindfulness, we try to return ourselves in the present. Here are a few strong reasons why you must practice mindfulness:
Sorting your thoughts: Our mind produces several pleasant as well as unpleasant thoughts, some of them we want to think recurrently while others we wish to resist. Unfortunately, our brain remembers and repeats the thoughts that we resist the most. With mindfulness, we never try to shut down the thoughts; instead, we become aware of it and process it accordingly. Don't exert your mind with blabbering thoughts. It's all about converting those blabbering thoughts into rational, creative thinking. Being mindful doesn't mean that your brain should stop its activities because only a dead person has an inactive brain.
Changing the thinking pattern: Mind without chattering is a myth; however, we can train our brain with a pattern of thinking. This comes with practice and because being mindful is not about sitting in a room for 10 minutes and trying to control thoughts. Instead, it is about observing the pattern of thoughts. Even now, while reading this, you may practice mindfulness, sit straight, and relax your body, feel how you breathe, the sound in your environment, and what are your thoughts. Awareness is the first step toward mindfulness. Be mindful of your daily regime, such as while having food, playing with kids or while working in an office, and so on. For practicing mindfulness, you don't' need to spare hours to sit in a room isolated and clam your mind. It is to be done while you are performing your day to day activities.
Stops you to worry about the future: Most of us think about "what if" questions, such as, what if this happens in the future? Or what if I don't get things done in time?
These thoughts make a person oblivion, which can stop you from making wise decisions about the present situations. It's imperative to understand that the more you think about unknown future incidences, the more it affects your efficiency at the task in hand and your current relationships. Hence, mindfulness allows you to live in the present moment and process the present information first.
Stops recurring past daunting thoughts: Everyone of us has past experiences. However, some of us have terrible experiences that may have resulted in an addiction to bad habits. The most prominent aspect of why we keep dwelling on the past is unforgiveness. This can result in destructive behaviors and self-hurting activities such as overeating or eating junk, drinking alcohol, getting irritated frequently, and many more. For leading successful lives, we have to LET GO our past, which can be achieved through mindfulness.
To regain happiness: According to research, when your mind wanders unreasonably, it makes you feel unhappy at that and subsequent moments. A troubled mind has overwhelming confused thoughts that lead to anxiety and dissatisfaction. Mindfulness helps you develop a capacity to handle uncontrollable situations very smoothly. It reduces the Cortisol (the hormone responsible for stress), resulting in a decreased level of worry and anxiety. By practicing mindfulness, you become more aware of your choices and make effortless decisions. Find happiness in mindfulness, as there is where you will find peace.
Mindfulness makes you a better human being with enlightened thoughts and self-worth. You understand your thought patterns and elevate the tendency to excel in everything you do. It's just that your mind should not tell it's tales of the past or predictions of the future; rather, it should say to the story that you want it to tell at the moment.
Posted on January 8, 2020
“Life is all about balance. You don’t need always to be getting stuff done. Sometimes it’s perfectly ok and absolutely necessary, to shut down, kick back and do nothing.” -– Buddha
Time flies and life goes on, but what we miss is the work-life balance. We are blessed with the wonderful mind, body, and soul, which is divine to fulfill the respective purpose of our life. In the hustle of life, we forget to live and join the race without thinking about the consequences. Hence, we end up losing either health or relationships or work. Here we will tell you about how you can manage the three without impacting any of your parameters:
Create your personalized work-life-balance wheel: The activities of our day to day life are segregated into various aspects. You can call it the wheel of life. Recognize the crucial aspects of your life that you live with and spend your 24 hours with. Create a work-life balance wheel, divide all the aspects of your life in parts, and observe how they play an essential role in your life. The circle may include your health, family, career, finance, social life, and so on. Attached is the circle, mention your aspects of life you have, and segregate them in parts to know that how much time you are spending in each one of them.
Understand the priorities: Now, since you know the aspects of your life, it’s time to PRIORITIZE them. Sometimes we think that we are spending maximum time in a particular aspect; however, we are actually not doing so. Here is the attached chart that can be used to set the priority as well as the impact of a particular time. We all have priorities of life, and we struggle to understand which one is the most important.
Time management: What if you know the areas to work on and which areas to work in first; however, you are not aware of how to do so? The third aspect is time management. Time management helps you focus and reduces the stress level, which consequently leads to greater success in life. Everyone on this planet is blessed with 24 hours a day. Now, how we spend these 24 hours:
-In grief or happiness -Work or family -Compete or motivate others
It’s completely your decision!
If you have created the wheel of life and prioritized the various activities, you can now decide the number of hours you could dedicate to various aspects of life. However, it’s not easy to identify and allocate time. Moreover, the most prominent as well as onerous task is to stick to it. Take expert advice from a transformational coach who can help you with the effective planning and implementation process. Creating an action plan based on the above three exercises can help you in expeditious growth in your well-being, career, and personal relationships. Few hidden factors can stop you from doing the above exercises, such as: Procrastination Lack of decision-making Unreasonable reasons Perfectionism Lack of energy
If you can resist these factors and strengthen your desire to be more organized, then no one can stop you from achieving the work-life balance.
Posted on January 6, 2020
The period after the child's birth could be challenging for some women as they feel empty, emotional, and sad. If this feeling stays within them for more than 3 to 5 days, then it could be postpartum depression. It impacts mothers mentally, physically, and emotionally. In this phase, you may feel disconnected from your baby, which is not normal. Postpartum depression is found in one of nine new mothers, which results in anxiety, decreased level of concentration, panic attacks, and so on. Why PPD happens? • Hormonal changes. • Tired after delivery. • Fear of losing a child's attention. • Stress about the upcoming routine. • Lack of ME time. • The decrease in decision-making power. • Fear of not getting recovered. • Fear of facing professional life challenges. • Body shaming. However, there are ways to cure postpartum depression naturally( at the earlier stage), as well as medically. If it is prolonged PPD, we recommend you to consult a doctor. However, here are a few ways you can adapt by making changes to your lifestyle to cure postpartum depression: 1. Tell someone who can understand: If you have someone who has been through this, or maybe they know about PPD, you can tell them about how you feel. This acts as therapy and will make you feel lighter. When you try to isolate yourself, the condition worsens. If not close ones, then there are many communities for women who talk about their experiences and hence, share what they feel. However, it should be a group where you can meet people personally and not on social media because, for such a conversation, it's essential to understand the context. You never know what backstab you and your emotions. Some women do not open up very quickly and isolate themselves. Talk to a therapist or an expert who can guide you with their insights and open up easily. 2. Steal some time for yourself: One of the reasons for postpartum depression is that the new mothers doubt if they will get the ME time. They fear if they will be able to take care of themselves. Don't forget your identity while taking care of your baby. If you will take care of your baby, and if you are not happy and positive, your vibes might impact your child in the long term. It is possible to get back in shape or cure that mood swings. Get ready every day, groom yourself, pamper yourself, attend get-together's, be the host in parties, let the fear go away, and don't let the isolation grab you. 3. Find perfections in imperfections: No one is perfect, and you don't need to be. Just because you don't feel like doing things doesn't mean that something is wrong with you. The feeling of "what's wrong with me" dips you down in depression. If you start feeling normal about everything you do is usual and temporary you can feel good about it. Laugh it off with your friends if you did something abnormal. Make it very generic because even the celebrities have faced this and recovered. The other way round is to cross-off the unwanted tasks from the to-do-list for the time being. 4. Physical activity and yoga: When you perform any physical exercise, your brain releases endorphins, which is also called feel-good hormone. Any action in which you are active, not necessarily the intense workouts in the gym but a brisk walk, yoga, or simply dancing while doing your routine tasks, get you the feeling of joy. There are few mindfulness techniques that accelerate the regime and enhance the energy levels. For yoga, choose the person who specializes in prenatal and postnatal yoga as they know about what the body goes through during the whole process. 5. Proper diet and vitamins intake: Every woman needs an abundance of vitamins before and after the child's birth. Omega 3 that positively affects your neural connections, vitamin B12, which is another crucial vitamin for brain health and supports your immune system, can be consumed as a supplement. In the condition of postpartum depression grains, gluten, dairy can intensify the effects of postpartum depression; hence, it's better to rely on veggies and fresh home-cooked food. The protein hormone relaxin, which is at the highest level during pregnancy, promotes wound healing after delivery. As there are many hormone productions, it's always recommended to eat fresh food rather than processed food. Postpartum depression is the extension of baby blues. However, if it stays longer, it might lead to Postpartum psychosis in which the mother may even try to hurt herself or the baby. It is always recommended to cure the same under doctor's supervision without any delays. Postpartum depression is curable through therapy, medicine and electroconvulsive therapy (ECT).Yet, many other ways are adopted to cure severe or prolonged cases. Howsoever, it is treated; the above lifestyle changes are a must to keep your mental and physical health in place.
Posted on January 3, 2020
With the multiple tasks in hand, either you do really well, or you fall apart. Leadership is a quality that makes you strong and decisive in every situation. It is the trait that can be acquired with time and experience. Working mothers are always soul searching, and most of the time, they struggle with the odds of life. They make plans, prepare themselves for the crises, try to figure out the best way around, and so on. With kids, there is always a tug of war situation. Here are a few well-grounded ways that can help you find the leader within and deal with such situations more insightfully:
Spot the leader within: Being a working mother comes with a heap of responsibilities and accountability. If you find the leader within, you can easily inspire yourself to play your game at level 10. Whenever you feel defeated, take a step back look at it again. It is because leaders cannot demonstrate control over situations, but they can control their response and react meticulously. When things are happening quickly, anyone can lose control and breakdown, but the leader keeps calm, understands the root cause, and rebounds appropriately.
Set yourself loose: It’s always good to stick to your commitments with others, but in case you fail unintentionally, it is not a matter of disguise. You are juggling with many balls in the game, and if one drops, that’s fine. It can be picked up again. So, stick to your commitments, but do not pressurize yourself to be perfect every time. Shed that mask of perfection to be a better leader because leaders never made the hasty decision as it leads to mistakes and oversights.
Be an inspiration: When you inspire others, it creates a lifetime impact, and that’s what the leaders do. Leaders have this quality of helping and encouraging them. Children adopt many habits from their surroundings while growing up, and being a parent; you are the first school for them. What they see you doing, they perceive it as reality. They look up to you as a role model. For instance, if they see you regretting something, they capture that forever in their brains. Hence, be like a leader and behave with them the way you want them to be. At work, take initiatives to help others and inspire other working women to keep up with their schedules.
Discipline is the key: Discipline is the sine qua non for every leader. Before you show up in the world as a leader, you need to lead within, and that comes through discipline. Discipline helps you with better time management, which, in turn, enhances your strength and self-confidence. However, for working mothers, time management is at Wits’ End. You are always stuck with dire straits where you have to choose among the family and the work. But being a leader means you still have a Plan B ready. You can keep an alternate plan for action. For example, when you are leaving for work and your daughter is a little cranky, then either you can ask someone to take care of her, or you can work from home. This is situational, and most of the time, you know what is the priority for that moment.
Everyone has leadership qualities but not all know how to refine them. Hold your vision and no supervision of what others do. The nonpareil fact about the human race is that everyone is unique and has their own experiences. So, rather than supervising on what others do, we suggest you hold your vision and walk on that path. It is a process, not an event. When you practice leadership, you are out of the competition because you feel uplifted.
FOR LEADERS Vagueness becomes clarity Rambling becomes concise Selfish act becomes selfless Repelling becomes captivating Unawareness becomes self-awareness
Posted on January 1, 2020
If you believe it will happen if you don't, it will not.
Every year we try to make our life phenomenal and achieve a better lifestyle, commit to resolutions, and make every effort to accomplish them. However, many of us feel dejected just after few months of commitments on failure to not achieve the goals. We never do a mid-year review or try to revive if we fail initially. To make sure that this year, you achieve what you plan, we have five mistakes to avoid while creating your 2020 goals:
Setting Unattainable goals: The leading cause of failing to attain resolutions for the new year is chaotic and unrealistic goals. The goals that we cannot believe in. For instance, if you are a working mother and want to write a series of books. However, you know that you won't be able to write to that extent because you have to manage your job, family, and other social commitments. Instead, you can commit to write one book this year and make a 5-year goal to write a series. This is how it becomes attainable.
Uncertain details: When you don't have details or a blueprint, your mind remains confused about which path to follow. Robin Sharma quotes it well as: Liberate the potential of your mind, body, and soul; you must first expand your imagination. You see, things are always created twice: first in the workshop of the mind and then, and only then, in reality. I call this process 'blueprinting' because anything you create in your outer world began as a simple blueprint in your inner world. Here is the FREE worksheet for you to blueprint your success for 2020
Count on your well-wishers: We all are porn to delaying and procrastination. However, if you have an accountability partner, which could be your friend or an expert who keeps you reminding of your goals and inspires you to stick to them, then it becomes as easy as falling off a log. The success rate of achieving your goals and sticking to it increases when you have an accountability partner. If you wish to have an accountability partner share your email address to assign you an accountability partner.
Celebrate your small wins: Do you remember what you had in lunch last year on 2 Feb 2019? Perhaps no! But do you remember your last holiday or where was your birthday party or maybe what was your best gift you received last Christmas? The probability of remembering special events and the celebration is more than a regular day's activity. The reason is, our mind is inclined towards remembering celebrated moments because we feel being valued and loved. So, whenever you take one step ahead, make it memorable. Celebrate with small treats. Even a small step to be able to stop your negative thinking process and making the situation in favor is an achievement. Acknowledge yourself about it.
This year it's a new beginning. Just like, if we start the day with a morning routine, we feel happy and energetic; similarly, if you stick to your goals in the first month of 2020, the chances of attaining are accelerated 10 times.
Posted on December 30, 2019
Women are vivacious and glorious. They can handle every situation with grace and love. They are always ready to take up any responsibility and committed to what they do. The only thing that can let them down is the feeling of guilt. With guilt, they have: Low productivity Low efficiency Low vitality Low self-esteem Here are the few tips that can help you live your 2020 guilt-free and shed the guilt for 2019. But, before we start with the tips, remember, no one is perfect, and neither anyone needs to be. The feeling of imperfection is the primary reason for guilt, especially if we don't accept ourselves as we are. Unintentionally, we fall apart within while holding this guilt factor within us. Here are the ways to lead a guilt-free 2020:
Guilt will not only impact you but also the people around you. Guilt makes you moody and inefficient at work, hence before you step into 2020, promise yourself to live a guilt-free year.
Posted on December 27, 2019
Almost every working mothers struggle with the constant judgment and interrogation for body-shaming and physical appearance. The pressure of getting into the pre-pregnancy physique and get fit into the old clothes is daunting and creates anxiety issues among them. In the community sentiment, worrisome emotions dominate our minds rather than focusing on taking action. Here are a few extremely important things to remember to get yourself out of this situation: It's a temporary phase: Before we jump onto appearance, it's essential to acknowledge that this is not how you are or will be, it can be changed. So, you have to convince yourself subconsciously that this is just a phase that will pass on. The best is still to come. Every time you feel body shame repeat these words in front of the mirror and assure yourself that you will take action to achieve your fitness goals. Use these affirmations: This is a temporary phase that will pass on. Do not compare: We usually fall into the trap of comparison, and when we compare, we despair. Remember, everyone is blessed with a different immune system, and everybody is unique. As a mother, the body goes through various hormonal changes, and the body response is subjective. The person you compare with, be it your friend or your favorite celebrity, their body responsiveness is naturally different. So, It's better to compare with self, then and now. Take action today: We all have long term commitments and plans, but it's all in our mind. All our plans are waste and void if not implemented, so commit yourself to take action and stick to the plans unless you achieve your target. The research conducted at Harvard school proves that it's always recommended to exercise for at least 30 minutes a day because your brain is like a muscle, and when you exercise, it increases heart rate, which pumps more oxygen to the brain. Apart from physical fitness, exercise enhances the release of a hormone called endorphins, which triggers positive feelings as well as you supply your skin with a good amount of oxygenated blood, which gives you post-exercise glow. The best form of exercise for working mothers is yoga, as it activates every part of your body and charges you for the daily routine. Listen to your body: There is no ideal weight or shape. As long as you feel healthy and strong, not too tired and frustrated, and you feel energetic enough all day, then you are fit. DO not bother yourself about the charts and formula to calculate your weight. See how your body responds. If you feel pain in any body part or increased heart rate from wear and tear, talk to a doctor. Do not overthink if your body is not as flexible as it used to be. It is usual and once you start practicing stretching exercises, Follow customized diet plan: As a working mother, the most outwit blunder we all pursue is to follow a generic diet plan. Just because your favorite celebrity follows the KETO diet, you follow the same. This results in irreversible body damage or takes years to heal. There are various factors to be considered while defining your diet plans, such as your schedule, lifestyle, personality, amount of physical activity, and so on. Consult some experts before you plan your diet because health is the most prominent aspect to lead a happy life and regain work-life balance. Discuss the diet plan customized as per your body needs. Take advice from a nutritionist or an expert person who understands human anatomy and has been helping working mothers. Here is a quick video about how we can empower ourselves when our body becomes unacceptable to society. If you are still trying to fit in your pre-pregnancy clothes just for meeting mankind’s expectations then watch this video.
Posted on December 25, 2019
Being a working mother is the most challenging role to play in women's lives, as they have multiple roles and responsibilities while taking care of themselves and reaching out to their family and work expectations. Every hour of the day is like a battle, and that's why we call them Warrior. It's like being in the battlefield and non-stop bullets firing at you from random directions.
Working mother at the workplace: A woman spends years to develop a stable career, and they love working. Opportunities for working women shift or cease when they are back from maternity leaves or sometimes if they have to give priority to their children. Unfortunately, it has been observed at a few workplaces the working moms are called off for being inefficient at work or blamed for leaving early. It is quite difficult to steady the scales for working mothers because there is a mental pressure of not being so perfect. In fact, the working moms are discriminated in regards to pay and promotions for being less attentive and devoted at work as compared to women who don't have children. Despite the fact that they have additional financial responsibility, and sometimes they are single mothers, the employer may terminate the job, which results in depression, anxiety, and other psychological issues at work.
Working women as a solicitor: Working mothers seek support from family, friends, and co-workers; however, that is not the case always. Despite countless responsibilities, a working mom has to advocate issues like taking an off for an event at the kid’s school or not showing up for the corporate and social meetups just because they have doctor's appointments for their children. The people around you expect you to be present as you used to be and don't take the reasons for not showing up in a healthy way.
Mother as a meal planner: Planning meals and making dinner is an encumbrance for a working mother as you need to take care of the nutrition and diet requirements. Further, the accountability of following the planned meals remains with the working mother. The frustration occurs when you expect your plan will be implemented successfully, but that doesn't happen. It could be because you forget to cook or kids had something unhealthy. Not meeting the diet goals makes a working mother frustrated over time. The battle goes on, and in all this hassle, you forget about your own healthy meal plans.
Mother as a responsible guardian: Every mother wants to spend more time with kids and love to see them playing soccer, drawing, and other unstructured activities. Additionally, working mothers have a responsibility towards the curricular activities of kids at school and their timely assignment submission. Working mothers spend less time with kids, which creates insecurity for not being able to emotionally connect with their children and hence, had to fight for time-management.
Mother as a personal being:
In all this wrestle of responsibilities, self-care is completely compromised. Do you remember when the last time you committed to your goals for self and stick to it? Especially the physical and mental health goals. The job, school drop-offs, meal planning is a tough row to hoe. What we forget is, self-care which should be the priority to get everything in place. We tend to forget that if we are not happy and fit, we may be low on energy, and those vibrations impact our children the most.
Further, for self-care, a guide and a lifestyle expert can create a difference in how you deal with nasty situations. Think about the day what will happen if you fell sick? or you feel depressed? No one else can take your place because you are the most important person in all these activities. Self-care is extensively required. Get some expert advice who can help in time management as well as help you prioritize your health. Be proud of yourself as you are managing the most complicated tasks of this world.
Posted on December 23, 2019
“Where there is a will, there is a way.”
The dictionary meaning of Hope is the feeling of something good will happen, or the feeling of wanting something to happen, and expecting that will happen. The anatomy of life is, what we want in life may not always come true. Sometimes, mishappenings make our lives hopeless. According to the teachings of the buddha, Hope is the one thing that is stronger than fear. No matter how old the quote is, it still prevails. Here are a few ways that will help you being hopeful again:
1. Break the vicious circle of Judgement: Even before we talk to the people, we judge them. When we judge, we skip to conclusions, and our point of view becomes pessimistic. We cannot appreciate someone with all heart into it because of our mindset's perceptions, which makes us hopeless. Here is the research that proves how the more you judge, the worse you feel and how it leads to depression and anxiety. For any relationship whether personal or professional, it is always the best choice to be neutral, otherwise, hopelessness is obvious.
2. Give it a break: Many a time, it is good to leave it sometimes. For example, if you are unemployed and in search of jobs with no success. OR you ask your partner to stop smoking but they don’t. No matter how hard you try the feeling of rejection and ignorance creates hopelessness. When we are hopeless we see our situation in a polarised way. We affirm the words like: Nothing will change, my situation will remain like this, It’s a dead-end and so on. The mind seeks external help and someone, it could be your colleague or partner or a mindfulness expert has to intervene this trail of negative hopeless affirmations. Sometimes a break in monotonous hopeless feelings can change the way you think. We call it: TYK which means take your time.
3. Apply the Law of substitution: The Law of substitution refers to replacing unfeasible thoughts with workable thoughts. It is one of the proven laws that have a theory behind it. It says that you cannot switch your thoughts directly from being hopeless to hopeful. Divert your mind by reading/listening to a motivational talk or play with your kids or go for a walk in nature. Hence, the only way is to replace the thoughts to something you are hopeful about. This temporary shift of thought is a considerable way to make oneself hopeful.
4. When others grow you flourish: This is the law of the universe that, the more you give the more you will be in abundance. It is the most simple and effective way to be hopeful. When you are stuck in any unescapable and prolonged problems, pause your repetitive negative thoughts of being hopeless. Open the doors for people who need help.
5. Do not expect from others- take charge of all: Most of the time we become hopeless when people don’t meet our expectations. For instance, if you ask your colleague to take additional responsibility on your behalf just because you did it for him last time is like creating an expectation log here. If he denies doing, the hopelessness will dominate your mind and that’s how we fall into a loop of feeling dejected. Here, in this situation it’s alright to delegate work however, expecting him to do for you as a favor is where you went wrong. Whatever the reason maybe, just because you will not eat the lion that doesn’t means the lion will not eat you. To be hopeful, do not blame people disappointing you, rather think of not expecting anything in return. Good deeds shall not be counted for reciprocated favors.
Every night has a Morning, Every wave will go back and forth & Every end has & new beginning. So hold on, when you are in dark you are not capable of seeing the light ahead. Be hopeful!
Posted on December 20, 2019
The last blog was about Negative self-talk. We all encounter such situations with no exception. It is natural and cannot be avoided, but what can be done is to reduce the impact or set the alarm for yourself for such situations. It is quite tricky and will create no difference if I say think positive because thinking positive doesn’t work when we feel devastated. However, there are ways to minimize the effects of negative self-dialogue and a process to convert a negative emotion to intellectual thought. We don’t ask you to compromise, but after reading the reasons, we are sure you won’t deny the fact of how important it is to stop such inner dialogue. Here are the 5 most effective ways to shut down the blabbering thoughts that create negative emotions: 1. Self-awareness and Self-realization: Awareness creates curiosity, which in turn leads to reciprocity. It means when we are aware of our negative emotions, we try to understand consciously what triggers the negative talk. This is very crucial when we are not in alignment with our positive thoughts. The self-awareness can be activated by consistently practicing a few techniques such as: • Reminding ourselves few times a day about thinking consciously or set up an alarm on your mobile phone • Find an accountability partner • Review your thoughts at a specific time of the day. Try these techniques for seven days, and you will feel the difference in your productivity and relationships. 2. Do not abscise rather neutralize: This is the trench where everyone falls i.e. when we are aware of the negative self-talk, we try to stop it or run away from those thoughts. Since we have a lower ability to see the opportunity, this creates an additional negative impact. For example, if you had a bad fight with someone, you are not in alignment with your thoughts. The feeling of anger, anxiety, and fear is already on your mind, and you cannot expect yourselves to be happy and in love. Similarly, our brain needs to be neutralized first to discard any further negative self-talk. 3. Let it flow; do not react: It’s all about mindfulness and not being a watchman to stop any thought. However, it would be best if you write down the negative dialogue in case you encounter it. You can either write it or record it on a mobile phone, whatever is convenient. Here is the worksheet that can help write your thoughts and reflect on it. Download the sheet and write down your thoughts as instructed for seven days. Observe the pattern of repetitive thinking. As discussed in the last article about how this negative Self-talk impacts our strength, it needs to be mentioned in this worksheet. 4. Take time to re-evaluate: When you write something, the mind perceives it; the intensity could be high or low. Hence, this exercise will allow you to understand the underlying thought behind the negative self-talk. The facts supported with reasoning become logical, and that’s how you can activate the thought of reviving your negative self-dialogue. This seven days worksheet will provide clarity about the triggers of your Negative self-talk as well as portraits how badly they impact your strengths. Re-examine and understand the recurring pattern of brain. Scrutinize the thought that repetitively poked you to trigger negative self-talk and identify the people or the circumstances for whom you hold grudges. This clarity is half the battle won and makes you feel cured. 5. What you lose, no one cares: The perplexity of our mind is infinite. We are aware, but we ignore; we all can solve, but we confuse, and; we all have an ability to understand that this will harm oneself, but we refuse to give up the Negative self-dialogue. Whatever you experience in this negative state of self-dialogue is affecting your physical and mental health. When you keep reminding your brain about this fact, the intensity of negative self-talk reduces automatically. Next time when you have negative self-dialogue, this state of translucency will help you to be mindful about your thoughts and be at peace. Although, it will take time as this is a marathon not a race.
Posted on December 18, 2019
Is something stopping you from performing at the next level, and you can't find what it is? Do you experience the voice within saying: • I can see them whisper, are they talking about me? • Why everyone treats me like that? • I will fail again. • I am so bad at work. • Will they laugh at me? Everyday we encounter such situations, which leads to negative self-talk resulting in toxic emotions. If you had this dialogue last week, then you must know how bad it is for your mental and physical health: 1. Demarcating your strengths: When you undertake such negative dialogue within, you are actually weakening your strengths. According to research on athletes, it has been observed that when they perform after having negative self-talk, they end up losing the goal, and it is detrimental to their victory. Similarly, every day we struggle to set priority and achieve our goals where the negative self-talk is an integral part of our subconscious mind. The lack of awareness and acceptance has made this phenomenon prevalent. We tend to circumvent and refuse to change despite the fact that we are capable of being a much better performer.
2. Corollary overwhelming Stress: Negative inner self-talk is equivalent to the unwanted denounced conversation with someone which, consequently leads to irrelevant stress. It is one of the spurned symptoms of the first stage of depression. The hard-pressed commitments and pre-eminence tasks of the day might lead to an undeniably busy schedule. Unconsciously, the self-talk goes on, although it is the mix of negative and positive feelings that we tend to avoid. The fact is, the stress in the outer world, when coupled with negative self-dialogue, increases the intensity ten times, which inevitably leads to depression.
3. Imbalanced relationships: The accumulated stress affects the way we make perceptions about people around, such as your partner, boss, colleagues or kids. It reduces the power of understanding and conception. This is apparent in our behaviour, for instance, unnecessarily getting irritated frequently or reacting to every conversation or taking all conversations personally. This impacts the relationships awfully. Gloom-ridden perceptions in personal and professional life are the mere outcome of negative self-talk. 4. Impact on physical health: Believe it or not, your energy vibrations impact your physical health drastically. If you experience unreasonable headache or body ache, it's time to revaluate your inner dialogue. When you are mentally suffering, it has a direct impact on your muscles as they contract, which leads to muscle malfunctioning. It consequently impacts blood circulation, which means the initiation of high blood pressure. Further, we know how badly High Blood pressure affects the body organs, especially the heart. As a famous quote says," If you lose health, you lose everything." 5. Indecisiveness or Double edged mentality: The decision making becomes elimination games when we indulge in negative self-talk. It decreases the speed and accuracy of how the brain works. This happens while we encounter a situation to answer a question or make a choice; the clarity of thoughts is imperative. However, owing to the fact that we are already tangled in negative self-talk, the power of making quick choices gets deferred. Self-talk is one of the most powerful dialogues that can help you excel at everything you do. It is about exploring the possibilities of inner strengths. However, when self-talk turns to Negative self-talk, it is as toxic as poison for the brain and body. It is very common and needs to be addressed to improve the quality of life and human well-being.
Posted on December 16, 2019
Nowadays, the buzz word FOMO is in the air, which refers to the fear of missing out, especially when it comes to social media. This is common among teenagers where they feel anxiety about missing out on what their friends do that they are missing out because of not being in the moment. However, that is just one aspect of FOMO. It is most likely the term that can be associated with everyone who experiences the soul-crushing feeling of not being in the moment, especially the working mothers. Motherhood is the basket of assorted responsibilities with no scope to escape any of them. It has been discussed in one of my article about trying to be perfect in every aspect. FOMO is the outcome of this overwhelming thought of imperfection. It could be related to: • Perfection at Work • Missing out on precious time with family • Careless about personal wellbeing. • Body shaming • Other miscellaneous unconscious reasons. Here is the best way to deal with FOMO: 1. Awareness and acceptance: In the rush hours, we forget to realize what we feel, and this makes us think sicker at the end of the day. Take a few minutes from your hectic day and recognize the state of mind and which situation has maximum impacts on your mindset. FOMO is not an overnight event as it develops with time, so, take some time every single day at least for a week. Once you know and accept and get to grip with, it will be easy to deal with the situation. 2. Latch onto the reality: Once you accept that you have FOMO, the next step is to understand and cognize the fact that this is the reality, and the truth FOMO is curable. The fact is your time needs to be allocated to every section of life. When you are at home, it must be a device-free zone and enjoy with your kids. Tell them that you are present for them every time they need you. Try to catch up with them when committed, or surprise them without any commitments. 3. Grab the attitude“ let it be”: Don’t try to be a Wonder Women. The fear of Judgement is from within, so try some breath work when your nerves get puffed up with the FOMO on your work efficiency. In this world, everyone will judge you, what difference you can make is NOT getting impacted about what they think about you. Remember, you cannot make everyone happy, so stay satisfied to cook-a-hoop for your loved once. 4. FOMO is stereotype-discern it: FOMO is the demeaning pain point of all the working mothers, especially those who go out for work. Hence, don't feel left out and make sure that you are networking in person rather than through social media. Because, communicating and engaging in the groups in your neighborhood is better than getting into rabbit hole of social media. For instance, be friends with your kid’s friend’s working parent or collogues at work who are working mothers. Find people nearby, when you share your experiences you feel better as you know that many mothers are in the same boat. However, do not compare yourself with other working mothers as everyone has different family conditions and circumstances. 5. Spare some “ME time”: There is a famous saying, " All resides within you," and when we dismiss our self-talk, we lack behind in every circumstance and develop a feeling of FOMO. So try some self-talk or take external help. Deep sleep is a must for a healthy mind and body. You can avail of some free restorative sessions for deep sleep relaxation. Being a working mother is your choice, and you cannot miss out on the zeal of being at work as well as the joy of being a mother. Avoid any negative self-talk, which leads to FOMO. Life is beautiful and remind yourself that this is just a temporary phase, so " LET IT BE."
Posted on December 13, 2019
Motherhood is the most miraculous feeling in the world. Every woman wants to live the moment and share the love with their kids. But, it's not a piece of cake to manage work while being a working mother. There is always a conflict between the thought of working efficiently at the workplace and being a caring mother, which may make you feel stressed out. Here are a few reasons that can make you feel crestfallen:
1. The guilt of slipshod behaviour: The obvious side-effect of being a working mother is slapdash behaviour, which leads to missing out on something or the other. Missing on family holidays, unable to plan meals together, overlooking priorities due to lack of time, and so on. The remorse makes one feel dolorous subconsciously.
2. Fear of imperfection: Working mothers often experience the overwhelming feeling of not being good enough. This is scientifically termed as Atelophobia. This might lead to anxiety and frustration. However, one needs to understand that it’s ok to be intermediate sometimes. Remember, you cannot make everyone happy every time, especially when you are multitasking. Sometimes the rage of achieving perfection can lead to crises in another aspect of responsibilities. So, it’s not necessary to be flawless religiously, life is still perfect with some distortions.
3. Being anxious about time management: There are always additional responsibilities, and it's daunting when it comes to time management. Since it gets fuzzy, round the bend activities, make you crazy. This confusion leads to stress. Here are a few tips and tricks that can help you with time management.
4. Lack of self-care: Personal care is a priority because unless you feel good and take a sound sleep, you cannot serve your social circle. Unfortunately, both things need to go hand in hand without laying out anyone of them. Here are a few tricks to deal with such stress.
5. Unorganized lifestyle: Do you sometimes ask yourself that is it me, why is everything so messed up? You have never been like that, and now this is the reason for your distress. When we are unable to figure out why everything is so messy, we usually get disappointed. The thought like, “ I have never been like this before” crawl on your mind.
6. Lack of parent-child connection: Being a mother's always a pleasure and wishes to communicate with the child, to understand them, and to keep a strong bond. But due to a hectic schedule, we are unable to keep up with the pace and which makes us feel frustrated. A child needs personal attention in a growing age. Here, it's not just about talking to the child but also listening and understanding their acts and body language. If not addressed in time might lead to bad habits and family conflicts. Being a mother, it's always fearful of dealing with such situations. There are cries to handle and the enormous number of mysteries to be resolved.
7. Not so needed notifications: Everyone acknowledges that unnecessary notification from social media like Facebook, Twitter, Instagram etc and other apps are wild-goose chase. Being a working mother the squabble of the day doesn’t allows you to think twice and consequently wastes your time and energies.
8. Ergophobia at work: Bosses are always demanding, and if you are back from maternity leaves, the situation gets worst as you have to start from scratch or update your database. This makes the working mothers feel stressed out and fear of non-performance.
9. Unable to identify time consuming vampires: Our brain consumes the information as raw as we input. It’s your conscious mind that identifies what’s wrong and right. You need to peruse and probe your mind about the prominence of your task prioritization. For example, a laborious task that do not need your personal attention must be outsourced. So create a list and identify the task. Here is the link to priority chart. You can download it or print it to setup your priorites.
The best way to deal with this situation is to first simplify your thoughts. There could be many other reasons for being stressed and feeling down, although it can be fixed. Once you identify the area of stress, you need to work on that by wedging some ways. Here are some experimented tips that can help you recover, recharge, and rejuvenate the situation.
Posted on December 11, 2019
The Hussle and tussle of everyday schedule make you stressed and worried. Consequently, the feeling of foreboding is apparent when you struggle or are short in time. There are many reasons why this happens, as discussed in our article. Now, it’s time the crack the code and brings your best selves out there:
1. Earlier, the better: Your first morning thoughts and actions decide the mood for the rest of your day. Try to wake up before your day starts, at least one hour before your kids wake up. This will allow you to think about yourself and plan your day as per your terms. Remind yourself that this is your choice and take 100% charge of your life. Inevitably, your guilt factor truncates as you get time for yourself.
2. Zone out for the nonce: Research says when we are in the phase of extreme pressure, our creative thinking is tyrannized, and we are less efficient in almost all activities, whether it’s work or home. To zone out, do something you like, such as listen to music, go for a walk in nature, read a book, play some sports. Mind diversion is the best antidote to all the sorrows and stress of life. It is also called substituting your thoughts temporarily. Although it doesn’t solve your problems, the mental relief allows you to stay composed and calm. This ultimately leads to creative thinking and streamline your mind with coherent reasoning.
3. Think before you think: Thoughts become things, and if you have watched the movie “ The secret” then you know how the universe works. It takes time to conspire, but it’s the science that what goes around comes around. So, the moment you start thinking before you get into the dilemma and stop yourself from flowing into negative emotions, you win half of the battle. Whatever goes on is generated in your brain first and then becomes a reality. A single negative thought can drag you to the ocean of misconceptions and melancholy.
4. Change is constant; accept it! Change is always expected, whether it’s circumstances or our being. We live in phases, and when we try to compare our efficiency with what we did ten years back, our mind ends up being deprived of sensation. By acknowledging what you feel and getting the grips with reality, it is easy for the mind to settle down and think wisely. For instance, because you get engaged with children for their assignment work, which is influencing your efficiency at work, it’s okay. Don’t blame yourself and feel sick about it.
5. Set a snooze button within yourself: Conscious thinking is the key to all miseries of stress. The technique is “ASAP snooze”. When your mind has many thoughts, it sinks. So stop that millisecond! Snooze. Remind yourself this is not me; it’s just a single pranky negative thought; take a deep breath and restart the flow of productive ideas. Let your brain take these small jerks to breakdown the huge thought of discouragement.
6. Practice meditation and Yoga: Practicing meditation is not about staring at a candle or moon. These are the methods to calm down and concentrate, but the substantial part is from within. Meditation is about breathwork, mindfulness, and deep relaxation. It is always suggested to practice yoga under proper guidance by an expert in the field. It’s all about being idyllic and experiencing tranquil insights.
7. Involve family and friends: We usually do not seek external help because of various reasons, majorly, misgiving YES! But sometimes it’s a good idea to ask someone to take care of your children. You can invite grandparents or a best friend to take your place for a short span of time.
The concurrency of parenting and work-life is more of manoeuvre rather than one-time act. So, take it slow and give yourself there is no point in achieving perfection while losing your mental and physical health.